What is Sexual Orientation?

Sexual orientation refers to an enduring pattern of emotional, romantic, and/or sexual attractions to men, women, or both sexes. Sexual orientation Sexual orientation also refers to a person's sense of identity based on those attractions, related behaviors, and membership in a community of others who share those attractions.

Sexual orientation is simply an "orientation to sexual attraction. Sexual orientation, on the other hand, is different from all other perceptions of a person's gender and sexuality. Regardless of which gender you are physically, psychologically, or socially defined, sexual orientation only determines what gender you like, not what gender you are. And many people are prone to confusion at this first step. By the same token, sexual orientation does not determine a person's character, ability, personality, interpersonal emotions, and other social factors.

Are homosexuals necessarily weaker in raising children than heterosexuals?

It is believed that many opponents of gay families adopting children are based on the following factors:
1. homosexuals are more or less mentally challenged
2. homosexual mothers are less maternal than heterosexual mothers (the same goes for homosexual fathers)
3. homosexual parents are not as good as heterosexual parents in terms of time allocation for their work families and the way they raise their children

What are the results of the survey?
1. it was proven early on that homosexuality is a gender attraction orientation, not a mental illness. Although homosexuality is a vulnerable and disadvantaged position in society, and is somewhat viewed through tinted glasses and under pressure, there is no medical science that proves that homosexuality necessarily brings about psychological disorders. More importantly, gays and lesbians who form families and are ready to adopt children are clearer in their self-positioning. Because they have come out of the closet, it means that they have enough psychological capacity to bear the pressure of society. They also have enough financial strength to be responsible for their children. Those who have mental problems because they are homosexual basically belong to those who are oriented by external pressure and have unclear self-orientation.
2. motherhood and fatherhood is not human nature? A mother and father's love and desire for their children, and sexual orientation has a scientific or medical necessary correlation?
3. this point is even less grounded. The way a child is raised has nothing to do with the sexual orientation of the parents. Research cannot give scientific proof that the sexual orientation of gay parents is the main criterion for them to be bad parents. Just as there are millions of scum parents among heterosexual parents, it has nothing to do with sexual orientation. There are even some gay parents who are better at raising their children than heterosexual parents, but again, there is no research to prove that this is universal. Everything is a matter of parental vision, sophistication, culture, income, and class, not sexual orientation.

How are children growing up in homosexual families really affected?

Leaving aside the question of whether the parents are gay or not, we are more concerned about the children themselves. Many of the voices against gay adoption are based more on the negative effects of this "special" living environment on the child. The arguments against are generally

1. children will be molested by gay parents

2. children are easily teased and bullied in a community with a clear gender identity

3. children who grow up in homosexual families will also become homosexual

4. children growing up in an "unnatural" lifestyle will cause them problems in a variety of ways

Some of these concerns are inevitable for me as a supporter of adoption in gay families. So let's look at the results of studies that have addressed these concerns.

1. in a study that analyzed 269 children who had been sexually abused by their father or mother, only 2 of the offenders were gay. Of these children, more of the boys were sexually abused by their own fathers. And of these fathers, 74% had a heterosexual couple or sexual partnership (with the child's mother or another woman).

In response to the difference in the base number of heterosexual and homosexual families with children, the percentages in this study do not seem to lead to direct conclusions. Still, from another perspective of the study, the fact that heterosexual fathers sexually abused their own sons (which is same-sex sexual abuse) accounted for the majority of these incidents of being sexually abused tells us something. Although it may not have much to do with gay parents, at least it shows that sexual abuse of children by parents cannot be discussed only among gay parents, but heterosexual parents are not immune either.

This study shows that "endangering one's own child is not the exclusive domain of gay parents". Therefore, this argument cannot be used as a reason to oppose gay adoption, because there are gay and straight people who sexually abuse children, and it is unnecessary to talk about sexual orientation in this kind of human ugliness.

2. This is true and is a challenge brought to children under the perception of mainstream society. Abby Ruder is a physical therapist, lesbian, and mother of a child. Abby believes that a family does not need to "be out all of the time," just as a heterosexual family tells their children not to be out all of the time. Abby believes that a family doesn't need to "be out all of the time," just like a heterosexual family tells their children not to say too much about their family in front of outsiders, and Abby teaches her 9-year-old the same thing. My 9-yr old... has become very adept at knowing when to tell people that she has two mummies," she says happily.

So there is no reason for anyone to be extremely optimistic or pessimistic on this point. Just live your life normally, educate your children normally, protect your privacy normally, and you'll be fine.

But the fact is that it is very difficult to fulfill this point well, because not everyone can balance themselves with their environment. So this one concern is very objective and needs to be overcome strongly. If you can't change the environment around you and the perception of people around you, then you have to start from the point of view of protecting yourself and making it easy for you.

3. There is no research or data to suggest that children growing up in homosexual families are necessarily or more likely to become homosexual compared to children in heterosexual families. One scholar suggests, "If a heterosexual family cannot guarantee 100% that their children will be heterosexual, then there is absolutely no reason to conclude that children raised in homosexual families must also be homosexual."

One study took 300 children growing up in gay families and divided them into 12 groups, but ultimately found no evidence that these children were confused about their sexual orientation. Their own preference for boys or girls was not influenced by their own parents.

And to put it politely, for all the gay people in our generation, more than 90% of them grew up in heterosexual families, right, so what does that tell us? How come there are so many homosexuals in the world when both parents are heterosexual? Why is it so conclusive that the children of gay families must be gay and not heterosexual?

4. Many people worry that children raised in homosexual families are more likely to have disorders or problems in spiritual growth, self-perception, self-esteem and self-love, and peer relationships.

But a 1992 study called Children Development showed that there is no direct evidence that children in homosexual families are more likely to have these problems than children in heterosexual families.

Rather, the key is that a parent's ability to respect and support a child's growth and autonomy, and to develop their independence and concept of family, has a far greater impact on the child than if the parent's own sexual orientation were taken into account.

I don't think a child growing up in a heterosexual family with daily domestic violence will be less negatively impacted than a child growing up in a homosexual family with a warm and stable home.

So again, it's a matter of the parents' individual abilities, not their sexual orientation.

Statistic (2000-2005)

The Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute surveyed a sample of all 51 public adoption agencies and more than half of the 844 private agencies in the United States about gay and lesbian family adoptions in 2000. Of these, 307 responded, and of the remaining non-responding agencies, one-third said they did not handle cases related to gay family adoption.

The survey results show (data from all adoption agencies, not just those that responded) that

1. the number of Agencies willing to place a child for adoption with a gay or lesbian family is increasing

2. 60% of Agencies accept adoption applications from self-identifed homosexuals. 3.

3. 2 in 5 agencies nationwide have placed a child with a gay or lesbian family

Of those agencies that responded, almost 2/3 had an explicit policy on adoption by gay families. 33.6% of those with a policy had a "non-discrimination policy"; 1/5 indicated that religious beliefs were the reason they denied some gay families' applications, not their particular family situation. Religious beliefs were the reason they rejected some gay families' applications, not their particular family situation.

The acceptance of gay family adoption applications relies heavily on the religious affiliation of the agencies: public agencies, Jewish agencies, private non-denominational agencies, and Lutheran agencies are more willing to accept gay family adoption applications than all other denominational agencies. The percentage of acceptance was 83%. Their acceptance rates were 83.3%, 73.7%, 55.9%, and 53.5%, respectively. 6.

Agencies that serve children with special needs (older, disabled, religious, color, etc.) are more likely to accept applications for adoption from gay families. These children with special needs, on the other hand, are very unlikely to be adopted by a heterosexual family. This makes a not insignificant contribution to the greater chance of such children growing up in a family.

You are normal because MOST OF YOU define yourself as normal. So please show your respect and move on.

Reference:

https://www.nclrights.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/adptn0204.pdf
https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/
https://www.nationalreview.com/2012/06/gay-parenting-bad-kids-charles-c-w-cooke/
https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/health-news/children-in-gay-adoptions-at-no-disadvantage-8518004.html
https://www.livescience.com/17913-advantages-gay-parents.html
https://www.apa.org/about/policy
https://www.apa.org/topics/lgbtq/orientation
http://www.hunter.cuny.edu/socwork/nrcfcpp/downloads/information_packets/gay_lesbian_second_parent_adoption.pdf
https://www.urban.org/research/publication/gay-and-lesbian-families-census-couples-children